Today’s session was 45 minutes, in-office. Client came in looking a bit unsure and said they’ve been feeling really insecure lately, both in dating and at work. They said quote 'I feel like I’m too old to be getting back into dating, and it’s embarrassing' unquote. They’ve recently started dating again after a long break, and it’s been bringing up a lot of self-doubt. At the same time, they mentioned they’ve been feeling really nervous in work meetings, like they’re not speaking up enough because they’re worried they’ll say something wrong.
We spent some time unpacking these feelings of insecurity. I reminded them that age is just a number, and there’s no 'right' time to start dating again. We talked about focusing on what they’re looking for in a relationship, rather than worrying about what others might think. As for work, I suggested they start preparing a few key points before meetings to help boost their confidence. Their homework is to practice speaking up in a meeting this week, even if it’s just one comment, and to keep a journal about their dating experiences, focusing on how they feel after each date. They seemed a little more at ease by the end. We’ll check back in next week to see how they’re feeling.