In today’s 60-minute office session, the client explored how their family dynamics growing up are affecting their adult relationships. They said, "I think my relationship patterns are influenced by what I saw as a kid," discussing how their parents’ marriage shaped their expectations and behaviors in romantic partnerships. The client admitted they often find themselves recreating unhealthy patterns, such as avoiding conflict or overcompensating in their relationships to maintain peace, and wondered how much of this stems from their childhood experiences.
We discussed how family dynamics can shape how we approach relationships, and how unconscious patterns can affect communication and conflict resolution. I encouraged the client to reflect on the lessons they learned from their family and whether those patterns still serve them today. The client seemed intrigued by the idea that understanding these dynamics could help them change some of their relationship habits.
I suggested they focus on identifying specific patterns they would like to shift and practice healthier communication strategies in their current relationship. We also talked about the importance of setting clear emotional boundaries and taking responsibility for their own emotional well-being. The client agreed to track their behaviors in their relationship and reflect on whether they are repeating past patterns. We’ll revisit next session to see how they’re doing with these insights.